The protected party cannot be charged with violating it, even if that person initiates the contact. There are often circumstances which can mitigate the finding of contempt or charges being placed, but “no contact” means no contact. So even if you beat the wrap, you’re taking the ride.
There are often efforts of ‘reconciliation’ between the parties, which cannot occur unless the injunction or restraining order is vacated by the Court. Sometimes the courts allow you to contact regarding the children or for counseling, but that needs to be set up before there is contact.
Remember, the Order says NO CONTACT and even if the protected party decided to walk up to you and start talking to you, or called or texted you on the phone, it is you who are violating the Order, and yes, you are the one that will go to jail.
